Friday, February 24, 2023

Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth!

 


"Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth." - Mike Tyson

I absolutely love that quote, not because I am a huge boxing fan but because it is one of the most truthful statements that you can make about life!

How many times in life have you said..."Why Me?" If you have a heart beat and blood circulating throughout your amazing system then you have said those two words at least a dozen plus times! 

By the end of this I would love if you developed the incredible capacity to change your vocabulary and from this point forward when you want to say, "Why Me?" lets replace it with "Why Not Me?" 

Think of a few instances in your life where life seemed to be going well, life seemed to be going according to plan and moments when life seemed like you had conquered the unconquerable. 

Now think how not one of those moments lasted! 

If you are telling me that you never had an obstacle jump out of nowhere, uninterrupted and at the absolute wrong time then you are lying to me and I would appreciate your honesty moving forward. 

You see, no one sets out in the world and says..."Man I sure would love to see how well I can fight cancer!"..."Wouldn't it be super awesome to have my wife leave me!"..."How spectacular would it be to develop Alzheimers!"..."This sport is going so well...let me tear my ACL just to have the option to experience adversity!"

No one goes into life wanting crappy things to happen to them...

Yet...crappy things continue to happen to all of us and at the end of the day its a E+R=O world...

E+R=O (Events + Response = Outcome)

You have an Event (Almost always outside of our control) and then its our Response (Positive or Negative...only two choices you have) and that defines our daily Outcome on how we approach any obstacle in LIFE!

Alzheimer's Disease or other neurodegenerative diseases are some of the shittiest (pardon my vocab) things that can happen to an individual. We plan a lifetime for retirement and living the golden years of relaxation and then for an asshole (pardon my vocab once again) of a disease process to rob us of that plan! 

As I write this I am 46 years old and the more research that comes out, I am in the peak of what I can do to help prevent/fight neurodegenerative diseases from happening. Too much alcohol, lack of exercise and a severe lack in REM sleep have been known to increase Amyloid and Tau which are proteins responsible for diseases like Alzheimer's later in life. 

You see...here is the incredible, uncanny characteristic of my step-father that, if we all implemented, we could all do better with in life. 

He almost never severely over-reacts to any situation in life. 

After college he played professional rugby and in a game, he literally got his front teeth knocked out. Instead of panicking, he just picked them up, kept playing, went out for celebratory drinks after the game and then and only then said, "maybe I should get my teeth fixed?" 

Would you have had the ability to relax under pressure in that situation and keep going! 

When I was a kid we had massive flooding in the midwest which definitely affected our house on the river, yet once that was solidified he drove hours down to the Mississippi River in order to pack sandbags for those in need. 

Now he is fighting his biggest opponent in life with a diagnosis of Alzheimers!

A disease that has no road map, a disease that moves at its own pace, a disease that as of this writing we can't stop and a disease that all you want to do is smile at and say..."FUCK OFF!" (sorry one last time for my language). 

We all start our days with a plan! 

I have to do X, Y and Z this week...yet how often does everything go as you expected? 

I treat highly, dedicated, competitive athletes whose year revolves around peak fitness in order to perform. Do you know how many run into trouble, every single year? ALL OF THEM!

My daughter, in the peak of her youth sports career, during a soccer game took a nasty foul and tore her ACL. She was punched in the mouth with both fists at the same time. Was the process back easy, not at all and not a process I wish upon anyone. However she learned each day to just do her best! Just focus on the R of the equation and eventually everything paid off with an offer to play college soccer which has been her dream forever! 

The key to the most successful is once they are punched in the mouth...

They take a moment to absorb what happened and then they immediately jump back on the saddle with a response that often course corrects the obstacles. 

They know that in order to succeed that we all need to be students of life and the top students never quit learning. 

So the next time you are punched in the mouth...immediately think "I am glad that happened!" and fight back stronger than ever.

Thanks for everyone who has donated to my drive for Alzheimer's. While these funds will come no where close to finding a cure. The funds will at least help light a small fire under progress! 

Make It Count! 

Wednesday, February 15, 2023

Are you a fixer?

 

"If it can't be fixed with duct tape, then you're not using enough duct tape!"


Not sure if duct tape has the magical powers that it once had when I was a kid! There seems to be a whole lot more binding products on the market theses days. Heck I use Gorilla Glue on just about anything that needs a little more strength to make it to the next day!

Growing up my step-dad was legitimately the king of the duct tape fix!

Broken swing...DUCT TAPE!

Leaky pipe...DUCT TAPE!

Boy scout pine wood derby car wheel falls off...DUCT TAPE!

Basketball net rips off the rim...DUCT TAPE!

Milk jug cap disappears...DUCT TAPE!

License plate falling off car...DUCT TAPE!

My little sister talks to much...DUCT TAPE!...ha ha...just kidding on that one however I am sure it crossed my mind as a kid!

The main concept of the message was his first go to towards fixing anything in life was to just put DUCT TAPE on it and leave it alone. 

You see my step-dad could very well have figured out how to properly fix anything as he is a brilliant man but I think he chose to use his energy towards endeavor's that really, truly mattered! (more on that in a minute..)

How do you fix things in your life? 

Do you invest your time into avenues that truly make a difference or do you just throw a Band-Aid on the obstacle and move on? 

I fortunately or unfortunately chose to be a chiropractor in life! It unfortunately is a profession filled with Band-Aid applicators. Doctors that never really take an extra second to figure out what the root cause is and instead just try to manipulate everything away. Guess what...that approach is similar to just applying duct tape to a broken pipe. There may be relief immediately but eventually everything will fall apart!

You see I have lived a life always striving to never be the DUCT TAPE applier. My life has revolved around always putting my wife and kids first and never putting a band-aid on my time with them! 

It took me awhile and lots of maturity to realize how incredible my step-father was to me growing up and still is! 

My birth father, who I loved more than anything while he was alive, was a duct tapper of life! 

Without much detail his view on life was just cover it up with his version of duct tape...it may have been alcohol, not showing up to important events or being personally absent but his inability to address problems created more problems in life.

We patch the broken pipe with duct tape and eventually time, water pressure and bad luck will have that pipe leaking again and creating more problems then if we just fixed everything initially. 

You see, here is what took me a long time to figure out! 

My step-dad never, once put a piece of duct-tape on his time with my sisters, my mom and I. He applied duct tape to life's little problems so that he could always be available to us no matter the obstacle. 

He never said...

Maybe later to shooting hoops...

Maybe later to going for a run...

Maybe later to helping with Calculus...

Maybe later to helping us pay for college...

EVERY situation, EVERY obstacle, EVERY success, EVERY failure, EVERY achievement and EVERY memory looking back on was supported 100% of the time.

For that I am grateful and blessed to know and have a teacher in my life that showed me how to not rely on duct-tape for things that matter! 

Always Crush Life! 

Make It Count!

Take this moment to go fix something that you have been waiting to fix and haven't yet...

You never know when it will be too late.

Also such deep gratitude to those that have donated to my Alzheimers cause...you have no idea how much it means to me and if interested in why I am doing this please click on the link above!